He ended up drinking too much and slept with a married co-worker, who was also solo for the night.
"It never happened again and I didn't tell my wife, but I will always feel like a jerk!
"My wife never made a big deal when I had to work late or even when I spent her birthday watching football. "My self-centeredness was hurting the person I loved most in the world," says Ron. I knew that intensity wouldn't last, but just after a few years I started feeling taken for granted, as if I was tenth on her list of priorities," says Andy.
I knew she'd be hurt if she discovered my affair, but I had no idea that that would be ! The takeaway: Even though he should know you're forgiving, set boundaries so both of you know where the line is.3. Sometimes a difficult experience can cause your man to doubt himself enough that he looks for an ego boost outside the marital bed. His wife made him realize that if he focused his efforts on caring about feelings, his actions would change. His cheating wasn't motivated as much by sexual attraction for someone else as it was feeling "important to another human being."See also: 10 Marriage-Saving Lessons from Couples Who Didn't Make It6. A husband who stews instead of shares what's bothering him is vulnerable to committing a passive-aggressive cheat.
Rick confesses, "My wife is amazing, but after a six-month bout of unemployment while watching her go to work every morning, I needed to escape from how bad I felt about myself. "My wife backed out of my company's Christmas party for the second year in a row.
She could tell I was hurt, but she still didn't change her mind," says David.
Only 7% did it out of sexual desire for someone else. She kept telling me how gross my gut was and pining over George Clooney lookalikes," says *Jeff.
In a study of cheating husbands, about half said they did the deed because they felt neglected by their wives. —to find out exactly why men cheat and how you can keep it from happening.1. "It felt like my wife stopped thinking I was attractive.
Think about how you would react if your guy compared you to movie stars and made you feel unattractive.
So always treat your man like he's a hunka, hunka burning love,and he'll want to stay solely 2. For some men, the lack of consequences is all they need to be unfaithful. One great woman wasn't enough." This kid-in-a-candy-store approach continued for years until his wife told him how bad his behavior made her feel. Constant hectic schedules can make it easy for you to forget how much he means to you. "When we started our lives together we were always thinking of each other's feelings.
Jim admits, "I had a six-month affair with a woman who made me feel like I walked on air." Even though he stopped the affair, he still wishes his wife could show that she appreciates him every now and then. "From our honeymoon on, my wife voiced her suspicions that I was cheating.
Remember to give your hubby at least one compliment a day—no matter how small—to remind him how much he still means to you.8. I knew this was because her father had an affair, but what did that have to do with me?
" Since nothing seemed to make her feel better, he felt it would not have mattered if he cheated, so he did.