Is it okay for a married but separated person to date other people? The situation that brought it to the forefront is not unique.Lillian Kwon’s Christian Post article begins “Dinesh D' Souza, president of The King's College and co-producer of ‘2016: Obama's America,’ is facing scrutiny for his relationship with a woman whom he has introduced to some as his fiancée.D' Souza is currently married but has filed for divorce.” My knowledge of Dinesh D’Souza lies only in what I read.
However, things reported about Dinesh’s circumstances apply to the discussion below.
Therefore, I refer to them only to address principles about separation, dating, and morality.
When Dinesh became president of The King’s College in 2010, he moved to New York but left his wife in California.
Statements from The King’s College board chair Andy Mills indicate Dinesh’s marriage was in trouble in 2010.
After twenty years of marriage, Dinesh filed for divorce October 4 of this year.
However, according to World Magazine, on September 28, the week before he filed, he traveled with Denise Joseph to an event where he introduced her to some people as his fiancée.
After speaking at the Christian event that evening and receiving a standing ovation, he spent the night in the same Comfort Inn room with Denise.
When confronted later, he claimed nothing happened. 4 told me his marriage was ‘over,’ said he ‘is sure Denise is the one for me,’ and said he had ‘done nothing wrong.’”SEE ALSO: The Unfaithful Spouse: Should I Divorce or Try to Reconcile? It does not solve problems.” When a couple struggles, stress inevitably ensues.
On October 18, the board of The King’s College accepted Dinesh’s resignation. Usually that leads to strife, anger, and other negative experiences.
They incorporated a prayer into their minutes that included this sentence, “All-too-frequent reports of the sinful failing of our accomplished leaders bring us no joy.” Subsequently, Dinesh announced that he is suspending his engagement to Denise. Therefore, the act of separation immediately brings a sense of relief and calm because they are not constantly at each other’s throats.
While attaining that time out sounds like a good idea, typically it is not. Because once they experience the relief, it is difficult to go back into the unpleasant task of figuring out how to solve the problems.