The first is that it can be done from the comfort of one's home, alone, and doesn't involve the traditional pressures of meeting people IRL, such as going to a crowded bar. “Conversations with new people are taxing for the introvert," Hartman told .
People typically perceive introversion as simple shyness.
In other words, introverts are people who don't like conversation, keep to themselves and only feel comfortable in solitude.
And we think online dating, even more so than offline dating, is about "putting yourself out there." So it goes without saying that introverts would find online dating as repelling as, say, an afternoon without a book. Introverts represent a varied group of people — some are shy, implying discomfort in social situations, while others enjoy spending time in groups of people.
(They're not all bookworms.) Introverts and extroverts are merely social in different ways. D., an internationally recognized dating expert, there are several advantages to online dating for introverts.
"It’s a way of fulfilling sentimental human need for connection and romance without having to put yourself through a very unpleasant process of going to singles bars and things like that," Cain told , Cain writes about the "self-negating choices" introverts make when they feel the pressure to identify themselves as outgoing.
Hartman said that this is a choice she sees introverts make in their online dating profiles.
“If you’re at home reading Tolkien, you’re not a fun person," Hartman said facetiously.
"I think people would not be honest about that kind of stuff, and they should be honest.” Hartman advises that people identify as introverted through their Myers-Briggs type, because many people are familiar with the indicator and may know a loved one who's similar.
Dating profiles tend to be really generic because people don't want to scare potential partners by "sounding too different or too odd, not realizing that it actually backfires," Hartman said.