You can back into one, sure, but it isn’t anything until it has a name.We’re trained to assume that relationships happen in five stages: initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding.Developed by Mark Knapp, the Relational Development Model (also aptly known as “Knapp’s Theory”) is the sort of theory that you know about without actually knowing about.
You’re not sleeping with anyone else, but they aren’t your girlfriend.
What makes this harder to navigate is the fact that people interpret social relationships so differently.
A man who has chosen to go anonymous but said I could refer to him as a “freelance lovemaker” thinks exclusivity and being significant others are one in the same. “When I’m exclusive with someone I like, it’s primarily my desire that I don’t need to worry about if she is being with other people,” says 25-year-old Bryn.
“If you’re only going to sleep with one person and you only want to sleep with that one person, that person is your boyfriend or girlfriend,” says FL. “When you’re not bf/gf’ there is less of a pressure to analyze that relationship in terms of having a defined future with them.
I recently had a conversation I’d already had, word for word, many times.
The talk always begins the same way then dives off in one of two directions. ” is the question I ask — the logical question to ask — when a male friend describes a woman he’s been seeing regularly and exclusively. Sometimes he says, “I don’t know.” It’s as though relationships are the same as good weather, something that just happens to you.
Is being exclusive the same as being someone’s significant other? Old me would have said yes too, but now I think I’m changing camps.
I no longer thinks it’s possible to accidentally end up in a relationship.
There’s also a difference in that, if someone is my girlfriend she is representative of me, which I wouldn’t equate to someone I’m just exclusive with.”Researchers will tell you that relationship limbo is part of “hookup culture,” but that’s not necessarily a bad thing — it’s just a thing.